Penpalling can be fun, it's a good way to meet new people, make friends and learn about other countries
and cultures. But it can be hard to find the right penpal, a lot of people aren't that serious about being penpals and stop
writing. That doesn't mean you shouldn't try penpalling though. On this page, there are tips on finding a penpal, information
on penpal scams and links to penpal websites. You can also place an ad on this site, if you want.
Tips for finding a penpal:
If you're looking for a penpal, you can either place a penpal ad or search the ads. There are lots of penpal websites,
you can put "Penpals" into a search engine to find some. I've also listed some below. Some penpal sites divide penpals
into categories by sex, age or country and some are guestbooks where everyone is listed together.
There are two types of penpalling, email (writing by email) and snail mail (writing letters by post). You
can choose to do either or both, it's up to you.
Tips for placing ads and replying to ads:
When you place an ad, you usually have to put your sex, country and and age and/or date of birth. You should also say
something about yourself, eg. your hobbies, favourite things and also describe the kind of person you're looking for. If you're
looking for a particular type of person ( eg. from a certain country or a certain age) it's better if you state that in the
ad, otherwise people who you don't want will email you and might get upset or annoyed if you don't reply because they're not
what you asked for. But I don't think you have to reply to someone who has obviously ignored what you asked for. I mean,
if you are 17 and asked for people aged 16-20 and someone aged 50 emails you, then they haven't read your ad or they
would see that you wanted someone nearer your age and they aren't in the age group you asked for penpals from.
When you reply to an ad, it's better if you say more about yourself other than: "I am 16, male, from Africa,
I want to be penpals" or "I'm a 14 year old girl from England. Email me back." If you don't say a lot, people won't know what
to write back and might not answer you. Also it can get a bit annoying if you ask the person whose ad you've
answered for some facts about themselves, because they already described themselves in their ad.
Some people use penpalling as a way to scam people. Here are some scams to look out for:
Money- Some people ask their penpals for money, gifts or other things. They don't wait until you've been penpalling for
years either, they tend to ask quite quickly, sometimes when you've only sent a few emails. I don't think they're interested
in penpals at all, just in getting things.
Letters of invitation-Some people also use their penpals to gain entry into their country (the penpal's country). They
ask for a "letter of invitation" which is basically a letter you (the person who has been asked to provide one) writes, inviting
them to stay. Some of them say they won't actually come and stay with you, but I think that you shouldn't write them
one, because if they get into any trouble, you might be held responsible.
Note: I'm not talking about when you've been penpalling for a while and one of you wants to visit the other, I mean people
who don't want to visit you, they just want to gain entry into your country and might ask you for a letter of invitation when
you haven't been writing to each other for long.
If you want to place a penpal ad, sign the guestbook below. :)
No racist, homophobic or other offensive ads
No ads asking for money
No ads not related to penpalling
I will remove any ads that break these rules.
Please respect them. :)